Okay, I'm going to say something here, but don't get all huffy until I finish, all right? First of all, when B'Stiller talked about doing a mind-meld with T'Pol, her reaction was "Mind-meld?" as though she didn't have the foggiest what he was talking about. That still really irks me. Really. A lot. B'Stiller explains it, and she agrees to it by saying, "Proceed," and they do. Now, partway through the whole thing, she changes her mind and tries to make B'Stiller stop. But he doesn't. The meld isn't broken until she pushes him away. Okay, she said "stop," and he should have stopped. Since they will persist in aligning mind-melds with intercourse, "no" means "no" at any stage of the mind-melding, full-stop. However, he didn't exactly "attack" her in the sense that Quantum is suggesting. Yes, he may have misled her, manipulated her, and coerced her, and those can all be seen as forms of attack. Sneak attacks, really. BUT we know that when Quantum says "attack," he's using the physical sense of the word. That didn't happen. I'm not saying what B'Stiller did was right -- go read my recap if you want my honest and somewhat profane opinion of that whole episode -- but Quantum's not exactly getting the whole picture here, and god knows, he needs things spelled out very carefully for him. Just listen to the way he talks if you want proof.