"Dr." Jenn tells Jennifer that the panel respects her attempts to be true to herself, but that they're wondering if she's not taking it a bit too far. In other words, they're concerned that her whole "I can't pretend to have those feelings" thing is a cover for what basically amounts to "I can't admit to having any feelings." Jennifer misses the point, talking about how Xavier is very touchy-touchy, and she's just not like that. She returns to this "chemistry" issue that seems to be so hot among the singles. She needs it, she doesn't have it, and so forth. And this is what I think is so bizarre -- I can, I guess, intellectually understand that some people might conclude that the many world cultures that have pursued (and still pursued) arranged marriage have it right, and that the love-muffin view of how you get married by meeting people at bars or whatever is unrealistic and overrated. But it seems to me that if you do that, you have to accept that you're not basing your marriage on chemistry. In other words, I think the grand tradition of arranged marriage has not necessarily been built on an expectation that sparks will fly from the first minute you meet. It's like Jennifer wanted to meet the guy in an arranged-marriage way, but she still wants a Love Boat kind of romantic wooziness. And that doesn't seem realistic. Non-Doctor Don tells Jennifer that it's not about chemistry or sex, but about "learning to love another person," so it's not helpful for her to decide to back off just because she doesn't feel the chemistry at first.