We come back to Gitanos, Day 36, where an unhappy Terry wants to talk to Aras. Is Terry unhappy about losing? Oh, no, not at all. This isn't redirected hostility or anything. He's upset because Aras made the crack about him saying bad things about women. He tells Aras that just asking him, "What, are you going to say something bad about women?" is "slanderous," which: HA HA HA! Terry then says, "What I need from you is either an apology, and then we can talk about where you're coming from and where I'm coming from, or we don't have a relationship for the next three days." In other words, "First, you admit you're wrong, and then you can explain your position and we can talk." That's brilliant. I'm totally stealing that. I also love the part where he threatens Aras with the loss of the closeness and brotherhood they've shared up to this point. My favorite part, though, is where Terry talks about his deep respect for women and says, "That's how serious stuff like that can be. I don't treat flight attendants like that, I haven't done anything I wouldn't tell my wife...." Those are the weirdest two things he could have said, practically, in terms of a defense. "I'm not a sexist! I'm nice to flight attendants!" It would only have been better if he had said, "I'm nice to flight attendants, waitresses, and cigarette girls at the club." And I'm not really any more convinced by, "My wife doesn't think I'm a sexist." Like she'd admit it if you were. And then Terry adds that he didn't do anything he wouldn't tell his priest. What? Aras didn't say you made out with anyone.
Aras interviews that Terry was very upset about this comment. Aras tells us that he "didn't feel good" about saying it, because it wasn't fair. Oh, I think it was. And I think Aras thinks it was. But I think Aras knows he can't prove it, because often, sexist attitudes are very subtle, and unless you can say what specific remarks you're talking about, you can't make that kind of a crack, which is true. Aras tells Terry that he apologizes. Aras thinks that he crossed the line, and he was totally wrong. He goes belly-up, offering not at all the usual reality-show pretend apology, but a real apology. Which real apology, you can immediately tell, is not at all what Terry wanted. Terry wanted to keep it as something to be mad about; he didn't actually want Aras to apologize. Aras BSs in his interview that maybe he and Terry have "helped each other grow." Grow less mature and rational, maybe. They shake hands.