And as far as the second point goes, that with so much to choose from Brad should have picked a wife…it keeps coming up throughout the show, and it's a ridiculous argument. "I just didn't understand how he couldn't choose one"? When Brad is on the record as saying that he doesn't love either one? It just makes no sense to couch it in terms of the numbers. It's like if I go to a shoe store, I can't find a pair I like in my size, and the salesperson gets all bent out of shape when I don't buy anything -- on the basis that the store has 25 different pairs of shoes in various appealing styles and colors. "But you don't have anything in a nine." "But we've got 25 different pairs!" "But you…don't have any of them in a nine." "Try the purple! What's wrong with the purple?" "It's…a size seven." "Fine, try the green then!" "You don't have it in a nine!" "Just buy it in the eight, they'll stretch out!" And this is not shoes. This is marriage. Why should Brad get the eight, if he knows it's going to give him wicked blisters? Not to belabor the simile, but it's a point that comes up over and over again in this episode, and I'm taking it apart the one time now so I don't have to keep doing it.
Anyway, Chris suggests that maybe the problem is with Brad, not with the two of them as a couple. "Maybe. I think so," DeAnna says, which gets a laugh. Chris asks if she thinks Brad was afraid, and DeAnna says she doesn't know what it's like for Brad, meeting 25 girls and developing deeper feelings for two of them, but Brad never explained to her that there was something missing like he did to Jenni, so DeAnna doesn't know how he let her "walk out of his life that day." I believe she's trying to say that, because Brad didn't tell her something was missing, that means that there wasn't something missing; he was just afraid of his feelings for her. I mentioned it before re: Hillary, and I'll say it again -- you can tell yourself until you turn blue that he's "afraid of his feelings for you," but if that's the only answer you can come up with in a situation like this? What he's really "afraid of" is telling you he doesn't want a relationship. And that's it. Chris asks where she's at with her emotions, two and a half months down the line; DeAnna thinks Jenni had it easier, thinking Brad chose DeAnna so she could just "get on with her life," but DeAnna has spent "every day" thinking about Brad and reliving that moment. She also talks about how many people come up to her and ask if Brad picked her, and of course she has to smile and say something vague while it's killing her. That would get old fast, I'll grant her that, but…shouldn't somebody in DeAnna's life, after ten weeks, sit her down and tell her, "Honey, I care about you and I know this is hard, but he didn't like you like that, and you really have to let it go now"? Shouldn't her sister try to explain that telling herself Brad "made a mistake" and will "come to his senses" is a waste of time?