Terry: "Okay, well, you and your wife are both obsessed with your daughter's murder. But ask yourself whether or not anything will change when it is solved. Nothing. She's still dead, and that still sucks."
Terry: "And then ask yourself what happens if her murder ever gets solved? What changes? Nothing."
Stan: "I still feel like it's a movie about me and how sad I am."
Terry: "That's what grief is like. That's the definition of grief. But then you've got your two little boys who are just waiting for their parents to pull it together, in the wake of tragedy, and treat them right. Not that you're wrong for dealing with things in this way, but shouldn't the both of you at least admit that you're doing what you're doing?"
Stan: "I haven't really had time to think about that."
Terry: "Well, eventually the rest of the world -- beyond this horrible occurrence -- is going to need what you have to offer. You are a hugely important part of existence, just by existing, and when you ignore that you're actually doing the world just as much of a disservice as you do yourself. Isn't this entire show just incredibly selfish? Isn't obsession by its very definition incredibly selfish?"
Stan: "If it were that easy to understand what you're saying, people wouldn't have pretended The Tree Of Life was this incomprehensible mess, or bitched that this show was a bait-and-switch, instead of understanding they're both fairly straightforward explorations of grief. We're just too tied up in the majesty of our own pain to realize that the rest of the world keeps turning."
Terry: "That's the human lot. Don't sweat it. What you're feeling is totally normal, it's just not that productive. Especially in the psycho violent way you express it. Or the horrifically static way your wife and Sarah Linden do. Or for two entire seasons of television."
Stan: "Mostly I just feel like being the father of a tragedy gives me something to be upset about, and vice versa. But then, I guess they teach existentialism in whore school."
Terry: "No, I'm just not incredibly childish and I don't consider victimhood a badge of honor -- and I don't have kids, so my identity isn't grotesquely tied up in my kids or their misfortunes -- so it's easier to see what you're fucking up here. Grief is a part of the process, not the prize at the end. Want a hug? You can have a hug, free of charge."
Stan: "I do have a crystal goblet I was saving for a special occasion."
Terry: "Save the goblet, and just work on becoming a person again. It is literally your only job on this planet."