In the kitchen, she admits it's true about the wedding, but when he says this is "sudden" she reminds him that he's missed out on a lot, avoiding her for six months. He says the note she left him told him all he needed to know, and tries to shame her about leaving him with just a note. He asks if this is really what she wants and then laughs and says of course it is, because she always gets what she wants.
And I mean, we're halfway through the season, stop addressing the viewers like we're fussy children and just tell your story. Yeah, Nancy's an entitled asshole, and everybody cleans up her mess, and Botwins have no accountability. We know. Stop telling us you know that we know, and just tell your story. The first time is flattering, the second time is annoying, and the third time isn't even pandering, it's just obnoxious. This is at least the sixth time. Eventually it's just lanterns all the way down, hung on nothing.
She laughs, because in Nancyworld you never get what you want. Like, she wanted Judah to outlive her. Does she want his blessing? She does, desperately, and she doesn't, just as desperately, and she doesn't want what it will cost him, and she doesn't want any finality, ever, on anything, in any way. But he does. "Great and careful work," he says tenderly, as though they are making love, and then -- surprisingly, beautifully -- gives her the Shehecheyanu:
Barukh atah Adonai, Eloheinu, melekh ha-olam
shehecheyanu v'kiyimanu v'higi'anu laz'man hazeh
The Shehecheyanu is recited at the beginning of some holidays, and it's the blessing you say the first time you eat fruit after Rosh Hashanah, but it's also what you say when you buy a new suit of clothing to wear, or at the birth of a son. It's the blessing you say when you see a friend, after a long separation. "I know the God part. What's the rest?"
Blessed are you who has kept us alive, sustained us, and enabled us to reach this season.